I don't know how to go about this post but I'll try to post it as it comes....
I immersed myself between the hours of 12 am to about 3am with Toke Makinwa's new book... "On Becoming".... My love for people's journey and their process.
While I read through, my senses were stripped of her status and any judgement, and all I saw was a normal young woman like my very self. I could relate with some of her struggles and all she battled with. This is not a review of the book anyways, but God birthed something in me to share with you all.
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You may sit around and judge her and her mistakes while you're walking in the exact shoes she walked in. You're in a relationship that is draining you spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, etc. But then you're scared to walk.
You're imprisoned with the idea of being in love that common sense eludes you. Don't think I don't understand.... I actually do.
You'll rather manage the situation with the hope that marriage will make it better and solve all your problems.
You know nothing about your purpose and even if you do, you can't be that person cause your partner wouldn't be cool with it.
You see the signs, the spirit of God convicts you, you know it's not right but you try to make it right and drag peace into it.
You live in self denial, become blind and helpless especially when people see you as the "perfect couple" but you know deep down you're dying and your light is being quenched and darkness is all you really see.
I can go on and on about all we make up in our head, as excuses to stay in an ungodly relationship and one that defies purpose.
You alone know the truth deep down in your heart and in your secret place. You cry about it but you feel stuck so you can't walk. "Moreover, who am I without him and what's life without him in it.... "
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I just want to tell you that while walking away from someone you love seem to be the hardest and the most painful experience. Living in fear, being stuck and most of all a life without purpose is worse.
It might be painful, but if you understand and trust what God will birth through you with that experience you'll take the dreaded step to walk.
Toke saw her doom and fell into it only to be awakened in marriage...... Are you going to sit by and watch same thing happen to you even when you still have your chance as a single lady or man?
Marriage is purpose and if your relationship doesn't give you a satisfaction of purpose and drive to fulfill same, you need to check again.
I'm not a relationship counsellor yet, but I know I should not make a mistake someone has made that I could learn from.
The year is coming to an end and I don't think you should carry the baggage of what doesn't serve you right to 2017. Use this month to sort yourself out.
May December meet you well.
Happy New Month and Live Fearlessly
#FEARLESSLIVING
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